It’ll be the best decision of your life.

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H. was only six when he moved in with us as a foster child in July 2019. From the moment we met him, we knew we wanted to adopt him. It was the perfect match. He was desperate to leave his former foster home and find a permanent family, and we were desperate to have a son.

Adopting him was the best decision of our lives. It gave us a higher purpose. It made us less selfish and more compassionate. It showed us that a big part of our happiness is really about sharing moments with H., …

Good stuff you should expect from your American friends and lovers.

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I’ll admit it, I have a soft spot for Americans. I married one. So this article might not be completely objective. But don’t worry, I have done some research to support the arguments.

I’m very aware that any attempt to describe people from a country with a list of characteristics is a generalization. The U.S. is a diverse and vibrant nation with many cultures and subcultures.

However, there are certain values and beliefs that most Americans share, regardless of their backgrounds. They are at the core of “American culture.” For example, most Americans value convenience, hard work and honesty. …

Searching for answers to empower empaths and those who love them

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“I need to tell you something important about me; I am an empath.” Those were my friend Travis’ words as he opened up to me one afternoon in March.

When you first meet Travis, you notice right away that he is an empathetic person who has a deep connection (almost magical) with his pets, a cat whisperer. …

Understanding how cultural differences shape our behaviors, so that we can break cultural barriers and save our relationships.

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Since the day Mary and Ana met one year ago, they’ve been seeing each other almost every week. They have a strong intellectual connection and like to talk for hours about everything. They have great chemistry. Their friendship has grown steadily and now they feel closer than ever.

But in the past couple of weeks something has changed. For some reason, their conversations are no longer as smooth as they used to be. Words don’t come easy anymore. Doubt has emerged. …

All the world is a stage and we are merely players.” — William Shakespeare

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Last Friday, India’s Prime Minister, Narendra Modi, became “emotional” during an online interaction with healthcare workers struggling with the country’s COVID-19 crisis. But despite Modi’s emotional moment, he failed to convince his fellow citizens, who for the most part just saw “crocodile tears.” This is the third time this year that Modi tries to cry in public.

Displays of emotions such as this one have become more and more common among leaders in politics and business around the world. They have become a fundamental quality…

Wonderful article, Julie! In Venezuela, where I'm originally from, we have a very similar approach to family relations. As you know, Cuba and Venezuela have a lot in common.

My case was actually the opposite to yours. I grew up in a family-oriented society with many aunts, uncles and cousins. But by the time I was 18, I was a bit overwhelmed by the family dynamics (a lot of judging, "chismes", competition, etc.), so I decided to put some distance. I was also gay, which didn't help.

I married into a very small nuclear family: basically just my husband and…

James, I am so happy to have run into your heartfelt piece. I just finished teaching a four-hour grad class on zoom. As usual, after a zoom class, I'm exhausted and down. Your article made me feel so much better!

Teaching is my passion. It's the main reason why I became a college professor. But like you, for the first time in my career, I have doubted my vocation. It's been so difficult to connect with the students on zoom.

My teaching style is similar to yours. When I teach in person, I give a performance. I want for the…

Hola Gaby, ¡Qué bonito artículo! I'm from Venezuela and we also express our love and appreciation with food.

Your article brought back so many memories. I remember when I was growing up my mom would always offer food to any of my friends who happened to be in the house at lunch or dinner time.

I now live in the U.S. and try to do the same when I can. It's such a nice way to show appreciation; although it can also be misunderstood in different cultural contexts.

Lately I've been thinking a lot about cultural differences. It's so interesting how in Latin America we prefer to show with our behaviors that we care for someone instead of just saying it. Yes, food is love!

I don't know if it is good or bad, but as you say in your article, it's just the way things are...

¡Buen provecho!

Marco

Metaphors help us make sense of the world. When someone says “life is a rollercoaster,” we think of the wide range of emotions and situations we encounter in our lifetimes. Similarly, when we hear that someone “is a shining star,” we think of his or her talents and successes. But metaphors are not always useful. In fact, they can be harmful because of the way they frame things. Metaphors have the ability to highlight certain attributes while hiding, or even misrepresenting, others.

When we speak about refugees and say that “they are flooding our shores,” we are not only saying…

Marco Aponte-Moreno

Half actor; half professor. Proud immigrant. Franco-Venezuelan-American. Live in Berkeley with two gringos and one dog. Hablo español. Je parle français.

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